Divorce

One of my biggest fears about marriage is divorce. Statistically speaking I am set up to go through a divorce in my future. This is through no fault of my own; it’s just statistically proven that children from divorced families, like me, are at higher risk for repeating the pattern by getting a divorce themselves in their future marriages. Just because I am at higher risk does not mean it is enviable. The more we understand divorce and why people get them the more we are able to prevent them.

Statistically showing after 2 years, 70% of people regret their decision of getting a divorce. This proves that people wish they would have not gotten a divorce a stuck it out. So why do people get a divorce in the first place? The answer is simple; most divorces are due to pure selfishness. There are situations in which divorce is necessary however.

Here is a 3 part test for those seeking to determine if ending a marriage is justified:

1. Prolonged Difficulties – Try to repair and reduce these problems

                                            - Go to counseling; try to get rid of the problem

                                             - Try everything possible to save the marriage

2. Apparently Irredeemable Relationship – Little hope to repair

3. Destruction of Human Dignity – Threatens to destroy dignity

                                                     Lose of worth

                                                     Insulting

                                                     Belittlement

Divorce isn't just something you do to escape a problem or issue. Marriage is a commitment and you have made covenants with God regarding your marriage and you can’t just end it whenever marriage gets hard.

For the most part most divorces can be prevented. We need to keep an eternal perspective and keep positive in our marriages. When things get hard we need to keep positive and work together as a couple